It’s so beautiful to see someone conquer a life struggle and walk away, still so in love with life.

5 Things That Can Block Happiness

  1. Always focusing on what is wrong:

When you walk into a room, do you first notice the ugly chairs or the beautiful shade on the walls? When you see someone, do you notice the hairstyle you would never get or do you focus on the way they smile or the calming sound of their voice? When you focus on the good, you will begin to automatically see what is right as apposed to focusing on what is wrong. This awareness will bring you more joy as you focus on letting all the goodness fill your soul.

“Focus on the good and more good will come”

2. Hurrying Through Life:

Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Life isn’t a race to run through. Don’t rush through being constantly busy, it goes by fast enough. We all get to the end, so why rush there? Take time in your day to cherish the little moments, the little things that make you smile, those little unexpected moments that warm your heart. Stop and breath in nature, smell the flowers. Really look into a child’s eyes and listen attentively when they speak. Take in the love, the laughter, the little moments of life, while you are there and completely present in them. Regularly, take quiet time alone for you, and let it be a place that brings you peace and perhaps some clarity in your thoughts. Some people find that being by the ocean, by the beach, or by the mountains or anything as far as nature goes can bring them peace. What brings you peace and clarity is gold for your soul.

“Don’t be so rushed through life that you forget to cherish the little moments”

3. Lack of gratitude:

I’m sure you have heard it before that when you are grateful for all you have, it seems that more goodness gravitates towards you. I truly believe this. I’ve seen it happen in life. I believe that being grateful for every little thing in our lives is so important. Be grateful for all you have, big and small.

“Gratitude is about loving all that you have in life”.

4. Living the “I’ll be happy when” motto:

Life is precious. We don’t know how much longer we have here on earth.. may it be three weeks or thirty years. So many people seem to postpone their happiness until something they are waiting to happen finally arrives. Some put their happiness on hold waiting for a new career, meeting the right person, next year’s holiday, for Friday etc. They never just enjoy the ‘Now’, where they are in this very moment, right now. Don’t be the person who puts off happiness waiting all week for Friday, or all year for summer. We need to learn to enjoy and be happy with all the little things that are sprinkled into our lives along life’s path. Don’t wish your life away. Learn to live in the moment. It’s where happiness is.

“Life and happiness are only ever guaranteed in the present moment”

5. Excessive talking and not listening:

When we are constantly talking, we don’t hear the world around us. When you become quiet and talk less, you will be available to hear important information and to just be present and to really listen, to others, to your heart, your soul. We can learn a great amount if we really begin to focus on listening to our inner voice, to people and to the world around us more.

“Listening is an art that we should all learn to create”

Cutting Ties With A Toxic Person

Do you ever feel that you would live a happier and more joyful life if a specific person were not a part of it?

Never is it simple to make the decision to remove somebody from your life. Also, it’s particularly difficult to acknowledge that a family member can also be toxic and a big cause of your emotional and mental pain. So much that you need to make a decision that you just can not keep on having a relationship with them.

For every one of you who are trying to decide if you should discontinue a relationship with a toxic person including a family member, this is for you. It feels that over and over again, you are hurt by this individual. You have attempted vigorously to fix the relationship, but always end up feeling baffled and frustrated that nothing ever changes.

So when is it appropriate and when is it time to end a relationship with someone toxic?

As difficult as this is, there is no one answer. There are many toxic traits and and the severity of them. Toxic individuals can add stress, anxiety and anger to your life by repetitively using bahaviours listed below.

Accusing

Controlling

Lying

Blowing up often

Discrediting or disregarding your emotions

Undermining your relationship with your companion, kids, or different family members

Manipulation

Belittling you, your dreams or beliefs

Gaslighting (an incredible type of control that makes you question your impression of what’s happening)

Declining to settle or talk about issues

Gossiping about you behind your back

Shouting, reviling, calling you names or making fun

They are always right and you are always wrong

Setting outlandish expectations

Feeling that you should always support them, however they aren’t there to support you when needed

Undermining self destruction or self-hurt so as to get their direction

Destroying occasions and events

Playing the victim always

Never apologising and if they do, it comes off as fake and shallow

Lacking concern or joy for you, your life and your accomplishments

Make people think that it’s ‘You’ and never taking responsibility

While it’s true that many individuals can change, yet it is also true that toxic individuals rarely do. They never like the outer world to think that they did anything wrong and that will never change. Rather, they just continue to find it easier to blame you.

Here are some reasons why we continuously battle to cut binds with someone toxic.

  1. We love them

We love this person and look past their abusive behaviour, even trying to excuse it is ways. We don’t want to ‘not’ have them in our lives. Even if we cut ties, it doesn’t mean we ever stop loving them.

  1. Family expectations

We grew up believing that family should always be there for each other, to take care of each other over all and above everything else. If the toxic person in your life is a family member, you may feel a lot of guilt. You’ve always heard that families stick together and should be there for one another. But realise that these expectations are only fair if the relationship is healthy and not continuously toxic, hurtful and harmful to you. Don’t feel selfish for doing what is best for you.

  1. We fear life without them. We fear change

Fear tends to keep many of us in toxic relationships for too long. To cut ties with someone that has been in your life for a long time can be very sad and scary regardless of the relationship having always been toxic. It seems that sometimes we find it easier to stay with the familiarity of something hurtful than to let it go, even if it is toxic to our lives. This is where you need to give yourself time after cutting ties. Gather a support system that you trust to help you through.

  1. You have a past together

Some good times and happy memories may be tied to this person. You may even cherish them and some memories. But we all know that love isn’t enough to make a relationship healthy and to make it work, weather it’s a romantic relationship, friendship, parent-child relationship etc. Sometimes we love people, but just can’t continue a relationship with them.

  1. When you choose to cut ties

It’s not a good feeling having to cut ties with someone you love. Regardless of the situation, we still find it difficult and do not want to hurt them. But saying that, the truth is that continuing to stay in a relationship with someone who continues to be selfish and toxic and is unhealthy for you and for your well being regardless how long you have pondered about this decision.

Remember that staying in a relationship and feeling all that comes with a toxic relationship can affect the life of your children and your partner and everyone around you also.

To Everyone Who Has Given Too Much Of Themselves To The Wrong Person

Have you ever felt that you gave a lot of yourself, too much of yourself someone who didn’t deserve any of you?

Perhaps you are one who searches for only the beauty and the good in others..

If you find yourself here, know that you have a beautiful, genuine and kind heart. You generally observe the positive qualities in others, and you want to believe that everybody is a good person. You focus on the few wonderful little things others don’t see. This nature of yours is the thing that makes you so remarkable though it may have caused you to be blinded a time or more in the past.

You may have frequently attempted to fix the broken pieces of someone. Nonetheless, not every person has valued your kind soul. Some have even used your graciousness against you for their own benefit. Those individuals will try to deplete you until you don’t have anything left to give them.

But remember that you are strong. You are beautiful and deserve the very best in life with someone who will respect and cherish you.

Sadly, there are fake and ungrateful individuals in this world. It seems that your generous heart always wants to see past the negative behaviour of others. You may feel or have felt lost for a while. But you will bounce back!

In your life, you may have gone through some unfortunate situations and relationships with some individuals that have continually caused you heartache and chaos. Perhaps they have caused you to do things that have benefited only themselves, without thinking about you at all by any means. They are selfish individuals.

You may have been told lies and stories by someone doing their best to manipulate you. They never gave you the time and consideration you deserved back. You never felt a sense of security with them, and you were consistently the one in the relationship who needed to deal with everything. This is not even close to a healthy relationship.

That’s not what love is, and you know it.

But what goes around, comes around. And although it’s never your style to wish hardship on anyone, it does seem that life always has a way of bringing someone’s treatment of others to surface at some point.

It will be easy to see the toxic qualities in them later on when you look back, despite the fact that you did try to give your best at the time when your beautiful soul only saw the good. It will be their great loss and regret one day.

These are not the people you want to be with forever. Be blessed it came to an end. You will eventually move on and continue to be the best you that you can be. You don’t give up easily. You realize that there are loving, genuine good people in the world.

You got this!

Use your time alone to continue growing as a person, loving who you are and just enjoying your life – be whole alone! Learn to feel complete by yourself. At the right time when it’s meant to happen, someone who will adore, appreciate and whom you can wholeheartedly trust will enter your life.

Never allow anyone to change your amazingly beautiful heart and smile. Keep being your lovely self and don’t ever lose that beautiful shine that makes you, ‘You’!

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