May you always have the strength and courage to carry you through to new beginnings in life.

Picking Yourself Back Up After A Break-Up

The relationship you thought and desperately wanted to last forever has officially came to an end. Now what?

Regardless of why a relationship ends, whether it was your decision or your partner’s decision or maybe it was a mutual agreement, it can be a very difficult time. You may have children, pets, or not none of either. You may have been together for many years or perhaps just a short while. Regardless, the question that you may have in your mind is now what? Where do I go from here? How do I adapt to life as a single person? How do I move forward from here?

First things first is that you need to allow yourself time to mourn the loss of your relationship. Regardless who’s decision or what took place, you will still feel a loss. You need to let yourself grieve through this emotional process. You may feel guilt or remorse over what you could have done or what you didn’t do, what you could have said and what you didn’t say. You may replay some aspects over and over in your mind. Remember that this is normal.

Learn to fall in love with who you are. Most importantly during this time because you may have feelings of low self-esteem for a variety of reasons including not being able to make your relationship work. We tend to internalise some things in life at times and make it all about us. But it isn’t and this is not the end of the world. Life goes on and you can happily adjust to life again. You deserve this. You deserve happiness! So during this time, work on building your confidence and talking to yourself in a positive way. You are so worthy of all good things in life. Some people have found that therapy helped them to move on. Others were able to work through it and move forward without therapy. If you feel this would help, don’t hesitate to seek assistance in dealing with your emotions and in learning to move forward in your life.

Learn new things. Take up an activity or a new hobby that you think you may enjoy. Or maybe there are things you enjoyed to do, but your partner didn’t. Maybe your partner liked to always stay at home and you didn’t. Now is the time to rediscover what you once enjoyed all over again. Perhaps you enjoyed long drives, boating, travelling, camping, theatres, listening to a good band etc., but missed out on those. Rediscover you again and what you love. Learn to embrace the idea of change, as long as the change is healthy.

Being alone doesn’t mean ‘Alone’ all the time. Hang out with old friends, be open to making new friends, join a singles group. The transition means that you will get to make all of your decisions on your own, which you haven’t done in a long time. You can choose the restaurant you go to, the band you want to listen to, the meals you make, the concert of your choice, what movies you want to watch and you don’t have to be in an any rush do decide any of it!

Embrace your new role in life. You aren’t alone in the world, and especially when it comes to finding your way and picking yourself back up after a break-up. You deserve happiness and all the beautiful things that life has to offer!

Cutting Ties With A Toxic Person

Do you ever feel that you would live a happier and more joyful life if a specific person were not a part of it?

Never is it simple to make the decision to remove somebody from your life. Also, it’s particularly difficult to acknowledge that a family member can also be toxic and a big cause of your emotional and mental pain. So much that you need to make a decision that you just can not keep on having a relationship with them.

For every one of you who are trying to decide if you should discontinue a relationship with a toxic person including a family member, this is for you. It feels that over and over again, you are hurt by this individual. You have attempted vigorously to fix the relationship, but always end up feeling baffled and frustrated that nothing ever changes.

So when is it appropriate and when is it time to end a relationship with someone toxic?

As difficult as this is, there is no one answer. There are many toxic traits and and the severity of them. Toxic individuals can add stress, anxiety and anger to your life by repetitively using bahaviours listed below.




Blowing up often

Discrediting or disregarding your emotions

Undermining your relationship with your companion, kids, or different family members


Belittling you, your dreams or beliefs

Gaslighting (an incredible type of control that makes you question your impression of what’s happening)

Declining to settle or talk about issues

Gossiping about you behind your back

Shouting, reviling, calling you names or making fun

They are always right and you are always wrong

Setting outlandish expectations

Feeling that you should always support them, however they aren’t there to support you when needed

Undermining self destruction or self-hurt so as to get their direction

Destroying occasions and events

Playing the victim always

Never apologising and if they do, it comes off as fake and shallow

Lacking concern or joy for you, your life and your accomplishments

Make people think that it’s ‘You’ and never taking responsibility

While it’s true that many individuals can change, yet it is also true that toxic individuals rarely do. They never like the outer world to think that they did anything wrong and that will never change. Rather, they just continue to find it easier to blame you.

Here are some reasons why we continuously battle to cut binds with someone toxic.

  1. We love them

We love this person and look past their abusive behaviour, even trying to excuse it is ways. We don’t want to ‘not’ have them in our lives. Even if we cut ties, it doesn’t mean we ever stop loving them.

  1. Family expectations

We grew up believing that family should always be there for each other, to take care of each other over all and above everything else. If the toxic person in your life is a family member, you may feel a lot of guilt. You’ve always heard that families stick together and should be there for one another. But realise that these expectations are only fair if the relationship is healthy and not continuously toxic, hurtful and harmful to you. Don’t feel selfish for doing what is best for you.

  1. We fear life without them. We fear change

Fear tends to keep many of us in toxic relationships for too long. To cut ties with someone that has been in your life for a long time can be very sad and scary regardless of the relationship having always been toxic. It seems that sometimes we find it easier to stay with the familiarity of something hurtful than to let it go, even if it is toxic to our lives. This is where you need to give yourself time after cutting ties. Gather a support system that you trust to help you through.

  1. You have a past together

Some good times and happy memories may be tied to this person. You may even cherish them and some memories. But we all know that love isn’t enough to make a relationship healthy and to make it work, weather it’s a romantic relationship, friendship, parent-child relationship etc. Sometimes we love people, but just can’t continue a relationship with them.

  1. When you choose to cut ties

It’s not a good feeling having to cut ties with someone you love. Regardless of the situation, we still find it difficult and do not want to hurt them. But saying that, the truth is that continuing to stay in a relationship with someone who continues to be selfish and toxic and is unhealthy for you and for your well being regardless how long you have pondered about this decision.

Remember that staying in a relationship and feeling all that comes with a toxic relationship can affect the life of your children and your partner and everyone around you also.

To Everyone Who Has Given Too Much Of Themselves To The Wrong Person

Have you ever felt that you gave a lot of yourself, too much of yourself someone who didn’t deserve any of you?

Perhaps you are one who searches for only the beauty and the good in others..

If you find yourself here, know that you have a beautiful, genuine and kind heart. You generally observe the positive qualities in others, and you want to believe that everybody is a good person. You focus on the few wonderful little things others don’t see. This nature of yours is the thing that makes you so remarkable though it may have caused you to be blinded a time or more in the past.

You may have frequently attempted to fix the broken pieces of someone. Nonetheless, not every person has valued your kind soul. Some have even used your graciousness against you for their own benefit. Those individuals will try to deplete you until you don’t have anything left to give them.

But remember that you are strong. You are beautiful and deserve the very best in life with someone who will respect and cherish you.

Sadly, there are fake and ungrateful individuals in this world. It seems that your generous heart always wants to see past the negative behaviour of others. You may feel or have felt lost for a while. But you will bounce back!

In your life, you may have gone through some unfortunate situations and relationships with some individuals that have continually caused you heartache and chaos. Perhaps they have caused you to do things that have benefited only themselves, without thinking about you at all by any means. They are selfish individuals.

You may have been told lies and stories by someone doing their best to manipulate you. They never gave you the time and consideration you deserved back. You never felt a sense of security with them, and you were consistently the one in the relationship who needed to deal with everything. This is not even close to a healthy relationship.

That’s not what love is, and you know it.

But what goes around, comes around. And although it’s never your style to wish hardship on anyone, it does seem that life always has a way of bringing someone’s treatment of others to surface at some point.

It will be easy to see the toxic qualities in them later on when you look back, despite the fact that you did try to give your best at the time when your beautiful soul only saw the good. It will be their great loss and regret one day.

These are not the people you want to be with forever. Be blessed it came to an end. You will eventually move on and continue to be the best you that you can be. You don’t give up easily. You realize that there are loving, genuine good people in the world.

You got this!

Use your time alone to continue growing as a person, loving who you are and just enjoying your life – be whole alone! Learn to feel complete by yourself. At the right time when it’s meant to happen, someone who will adore, appreciate and whom you can wholeheartedly trust will enter your life.

Never allow anyone to change your amazingly beautiful heart and smile. Keep being your lovely self and don’t ever lose that beautiful shine that makes you, ‘You’!

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